How you doin? I have been feeling all types of ways lately and I am pretty sure I am not the only one. I have read other blogs, I have talked to people, to friends & family and everyone seems to be "just fine". We are living our lives, we are doing our things but are we reaching closer to our goals? I think that we all want to be more than just fine. We want to achieve our goals and our dreams.
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If you are someone who wakes up every day following the same routine, you might feel like you are just stuck somewhere, doing the same things over and over again and not getting anywhere. This is how I feel at the moment. But, I know that if you look back at the end of the year, you'll realize that you weren't really stuck. You are just progressing at a slow rate.
I have recently just gotten a new job where I am able to work from home. As an introvert, I love the fact that I don't have to go outside to socialize with my coworkers or anything. The job is better done from a work from home environment. Every day, I follow the same routine so even though I love the job, it is getting repetitive and I am feeling stuck again. But, then I realize how I did not have this job three weeks ago and that has changed my life for the better. I now have a job where I feel comfortable for the moment and I am very grateful.
To be honest, I have plans for the future, but I am currently lost as to what I want to do. I am in the whole "trying to figure myself out" zone. But who knows for how long that phase is going to stay with me. This is the part where you ask yourself a lot of questions and have no answers to any of them. You simply go with the flow because you don't really have a choice.
I always get very anxious when I think about the future. We think that the future is very far far away but it is not. In fact, we have to start planning now for a bright future. If you are like me and haven't figure things out yet, this idea of planning might just scare you as we do not have any plans.
It is probably normal to stress about your future, but I don't think it is normal to wake up every single day with anxiety thoughts about your future. Every time I log on social media and I see friends achieving their goals, I get super excited for them but I get equally stressed because the thought of not being able to achieve my goals scares me.
The worst part is feeling like you are alone in all of this. We think that everyone knows what they're doing and we are the only one left behind, not knowing anything about our own lives. That might be false, people around you are probably also figuring themselves out but we are so preoccupied we our own problems that we don't see their problems.
To anyone who is reading this and feeling the same way, I hope you know that you are not alone. It is totally normal to feel anxious or to feel left behind at times. If you are still unsure of what you want to do with your life, that is okay. There is no deadline. You can achieve your dreams at any point in your life.
I might be smiling, I might be active on social media, I might be posting every single day on insta/twitter but my inner self is screaming and I might just feel like I am about to explode at any moment.
I am writing this as a reminder to myself and to you, that it is okay to be lost at times. Hopefully, we'll find the way to our dreams one day.
PS: I know that the best possible way to avoid anxiety about the future is to actually write down goals and work on them at your own pace. But, I have a bad habit of avoiding my problems and distracting my thoughts by watching TV shows (mostly comedy and thriller) or movies. That does help for some time but eventually, I will have to face my problems. But just in case, if you want to forget your problems for some time, I recommend watching Friends, The Office or Parks & Recreation.
QOTD: Did you ever feel lost or felt left behind at some point in your life? If yes, were you able to figure yourself out afterwards? Let me know in the comments!
I felt really behind when I was in my 20s and had just finished university. I didn't get into my career or life groove until my 30s, and since then it's been getting better and better! Sometimes you just have to get out of your comfort zone and try new things until you find the things you want, whether it's for work or in life. Good luck on your search!
I am at that point now where you were years ago. I am so glad you got past that phase. I love that things are going well for you now. Yes, stepping out of your comfort zone is a must in order to achieve greater opportunities. I am happy it worked for you. Thank you so much, Colleen!
Good luck on your journey! I've been feeling like this a lot too recently, I'm getting to a point where most of my friends are thinking about uni and I'm still not totally sure what I'd like to do - other than my blog, which has been so much fun so far! Thanks for sharing such a relatable post x
Congratulations on getting your new job, and I can certainly understand the appeal of working from home and not having to interact with coworkers. However, you also miss the opportunity to make new friends that can make work less repetitive and boring. One of my good friends I met at work, and having them there while I was at work made work a lot more fun.
But when you're always working at home on your own, it can make work feel a lot harder. And this is coming from me, someone with agoraphobia and a social anxiety disorder
Thank you so much, yes you are right! I do have amazing friends that I have met at my previous job. I definitely loved working with them. I have also met good people at my new job. I just haven't gotten close to them, at least not yet. But, for the moment I enjoy working from home. Not only because of my social anxiety problems but because of Covid as well.
I definitely feel the same way from time to time, although I do find a lot of comfort in the familiarity of routines. It's also good to remember someone else's success doesn't take away from your own, so celebrating the little wins helps me if I feel like I'm behind or start to compare. Great post.
Yes, a routine can be so comforting but can also prevent you for doing things differently. As an introvert, I love a good routine but it is good to get out and explore once in a while. Oh yes, I definitely agree with you on the celebrating everything. Every little success is a big win. Thank you, Anika!
Feeling this way is totally normal.I think I feel like this most of my life.Work from home was great for me. I am an introvert also so I like it better working alone at my own pace and space.It was nice to know that someone else goes through the same wondering about life and future. Thank you for sharing this post 🙂
I know right, working from home is kind of the best thing for me, for the moment. I am absolutely enjoying it. I am so anxious about returning to the office. I hope it stays like this for a little longer. I hope we find our ways to our dreams soon! Thank you, Eri.
I can relate to this so well. I tend to worry about the future even through I have plans. It think it's normal to feel lost sometimes, life can be confusing sometimes. I'm an introvert as well so online school for me hasn't been that bad, less anxiety being in lecture rooms haha. Great post and I hope you feel better soon! xx TheQuietGirl | www.quietgirlblog.com
You’ll be fine. I assume you’re monitoring your physical as well as your emotional health. Introverts like us tend to let things slide if we don’t have somebody nagging us. It’s good to have plans and goals, as long as you don’t harass yourself with time limits. There’s plenty of time for everything. And if you’re in an actual rut, don’t be afraid to free yourself. I’ve done that at least four times in my long, twisted life, and it always worked out better. Especially when you attend the retirement party of some poor individual who stayed the course at some shit job you left 40 years ago.
Awee, thank you so much for your comment. That truly gives me hope. I try to not let time affect me, but sometimes, it just does. I appreciate your support. Thank you!
Hello! I have been feeling the same way! So many things I want to do but I get so easily distracted and frustrated! Thank you for your post! Focusing on your goals help. I rely a lot on my husband and friends for advice when I can't get out of a funk.
It is nice to know that some people can relate, and feel the same way. It means you are supported by so many people who can understand and help you. Yes, have a good support system is always helpful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Rexann.
I can really relate to this post - thank you for sharing something so personal and honest. I've been in my current job for over five years now and I'm feeling restless because I want to move on. But I need to study a lot in order to retrain for the career I want, and my energy and concentration levels have been low, so I've been feeling 'stuck' and frustrated. I also ended a two-year relationship earlier this year and although I want to date again, I don't feel ready yet. 2021 has been a bit like living in a state of limbo because of these things - as well as the unsettled state of the world right now!
Reading your post and all of the comments on here has reminded me that a lot of us are feeling this way. We might all have different circumstances, but so many of us are feeling a bit lost, tired, or directionless. And like you said, it's OK to feel that way - I think it's normal from time to time, as we make changes in our lives. I'm an introvert too, so I often recharge with my favourite TV shows. You're definitely not alone with any of your experiences and thank you so much for sharing them here! xx
Thank you so much for your kindness Kate, I know you have been through a lot and it is not easy right now but I am hoping for the best things to come to you. I hope you get a job in the field that you wish to. I can totally understand being stuck because I feel the same way right now. I am sorry about your relationship. I hope you find your happiness very soon.
Thank you for your wonderful comment and for always being so supportive. I truly appreciate it.
So great to read an honest piece about emotions. I often feel lost, scared, and panicked, even with goals and a direction as to where I want to go. I feel it is important to acknowledge those emotions, as you have done. I have reached an understanding with myself to not react on how I feel, let if flow in and out. To accept who I truly am, the bad feelings too. If I want to watch a movie, I'll do it without feeling guilt. Just enjoy it and while this bit is hard, don't measure yourself against others. You are unique and wonderful and your life, your path, is yours. Keep going, and be kind to yourself.
Thank you Zac, that means a lot to me. Your words are very comforting. Yess, I love watching moves and tv shows, it makes the problems disappear for a little while. I agree with everything you said there. Thanks a lot!
I felt really behind when I was in my 20s and had just finished university. I didn't get into my career or life groove until my 30s, and since then it's been getting better and better! Sometimes you just have to get out of your comfort zone and try new things until you find the things you want, whether it's for work or in life. Good luck on your search!
ReplyDeleteI am at that point now where you were years ago. I am so glad you got past that phase. I love that things are going well for you now. Yes, stepping out of your comfort zone is a must in order to achieve greater opportunities. I am happy it worked for you. Thank you so much, Colleen!
DeleteGood luck on your journey! I've been feeling like this a lot too recently, I'm getting to a point where most of my friends are thinking about uni and I'm still not totally sure what I'd like to do - other than my blog, which has been so much fun so far! Thanks for sharing such a relatable post x
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! Yess, I know a few people who are also feeling this way. I hope you find your pathway soon! Thank you once again.
DeleteCongratulations on getting your new job, and I can certainly understand the appeal of working from home and not having to interact with coworkers. However, you also miss the opportunity to make new friends that can make work less repetitive and boring. One of my good friends I met at work, and having them there while I was at work made work a lot more fun.
ReplyDeleteBut when you're always working at home on your own, it can make work feel a lot harder. And this is coming from me, someone with agoraphobia and a social anxiety disorder
Thank you so much, yes you are right! I do have amazing friends that I have met at my previous job. I definitely loved working with them. I have also met good people at my new job. I just haven't gotten close to them, at least not yet. But, for the moment I enjoy working from home. Not only because of my social anxiety problems but because of Covid as well.
DeleteI definitely feel the same way from time to time, although I do find a lot of comfort in the familiarity of routines. It's also good to remember someone else's success doesn't take away from your own, so celebrating the little wins helps me if I feel like I'm behind or start to compare. Great post.
ReplyDeleteYes, a routine can be so comforting but can also prevent you for doing things differently. As an introvert, I love a good routine but it is good to get out and explore once in a while. Oh yes, I definitely agree with you on the celebrating everything. Every little success is a big win. Thank you, Anika!
DeleteFeeling this way is totally normal.I think I feel like this most of my life.Work from home was great for me. I am an introvert also so I like it better working alone at my own pace and space.It was nice to know that someone else goes through the same wondering about life and future. Thank you for sharing this post 🙂
ReplyDeleteI know right, working from home is kind of the best thing for me, for the moment. I am absolutely enjoying it. I am so anxious about returning to the office. I hope it stays like this for a little longer. I hope we find our ways to our dreams soon! Thank you, Eri.
DeleteThis is very relatable. A lot of people seem to have a timeline, which in most cases is not realistic. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteYeah that is true. But with the time flying, it seems impossible to catch up.
DeleteI can relate to this so well. I tend to worry about the future even through I have plans. It think it's normal to feel lost sometimes, life can be confusing sometimes. I'm an introvert as well so online school for me hasn't been that bad, less anxiety being in lecture rooms haha. Great post and I hope you feel better soon! xx
ReplyDeleteTheQuietGirl | www.quietgirlblog.com
Yeah, for us introverts, online classes and working from home is kind of a dream. Thank you so much!
DeleteNice write-up!
ReplyDeleteRelatable very much!
Thank you, Danie!
DeleteYou’ll be fine. I assume you’re monitoring your physical as well as your emotional health. Introverts like us tend to let things slide if we don’t have somebody nagging us. It’s good to have plans and goals, as long as you don’t harass yourself with time limits. There’s plenty of time for everything. And if you’re in an actual rut, don’t be afraid to free yourself. I’ve done that at least four times in my long, twisted life, and it always worked out better. Especially when you attend the retirement party of some poor individual who stayed the course at some shit job you left 40 years ago.
ReplyDeleteAwee, thank you so much for your comment. That truly gives me hope. I try to not let time affect me, but sometimes, it just does. I appreciate your support. Thank you!
DeleteHello! I have been feeling the same way! So many things I want to do but I get so easily distracted and frustrated! Thank you for your post! Focusing on your goals help. I rely a lot on my husband and friends for advice when I can't get out of a funk.
ReplyDeleteIt is nice to know that some people can relate, and feel the same way. It means you are supported by so many people who can understand and help you. Yes, have a good support system is always helpful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Rexann.
DeleteI can really relate to this post - thank you for sharing something so personal and honest. I've been in my current job for over five years now and I'm feeling restless because I want to move on. But I need to study a lot in order to retrain for the career I want, and my energy and concentration levels have been low, so I've been feeling 'stuck' and frustrated. I also ended a two-year relationship earlier this year and although I want to date again, I don't feel ready yet. 2021 has been a bit like living in a state of limbo because of these things - as well as the unsettled state of the world right now!
ReplyDeleteReading your post and all of the comments on here has reminded me that a lot of us are feeling this way. We might all have different circumstances, but so many of us are feeling a bit lost, tired, or directionless. And like you said, it's OK to feel that way - I think it's normal from time to time, as we make changes in our lives. I'm an introvert too, so I often recharge with my favourite TV shows. You're definitely not alone with any of your experiences and thank you so much for sharing them here! xx
Thank you so much for your kindness Kate, I know you have been through a lot and it is not easy right now but I am hoping for the best things to come to you. I hope you get a job in the field that you wish to. I can totally understand being stuck because I feel the same way right now. I am sorry about your relationship. I hope you find your happiness very soon.
DeleteThank you for your wonderful comment and for always being so supportive. I truly appreciate it.
So great to read an honest piece about emotions. I often feel lost, scared, and panicked, even with goals and a direction as to where I want to go. I feel it is important to acknowledge those emotions, as you have done. I have reached an understanding with myself to not react on how I feel, let if flow in and out. To accept who I truly am, the bad feelings too. If I want to watch a movie, I'll do it without feeling guilt. Just enjoy it and while this bit is hard, don't measure yourself against others. You are unique and wonderful and your life, your path, is yours. Keep going, and be kind to yourself.
ReplyDeleteThank you Zac, that means a lot to me. Your words are very comforting. Yess, I love watching moves and tv shows, it makes the problems disappear for a little while. I agree with everything you said there. Thanks a lot!
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