Sunday, February 21, 2021

10 Types of People You Need to Avoid

Hey readers,

You guys wanted this as my next post so here it is! I have so many stories to tell you and I am sure you have plenty too. We all have to deal with these type of people at some point in our lives. The question is how you deal with them? 

Are you someone who can easily leave a friendship because it is toxic and tell a co-worker they are wrong and stand up for yourself or are you more someone who needs to please people or simply find it hard to let go of people? 

I am lucky enough to have someone in my life who I can call my best friend. We have been best friends for over 10 years. I am so happy and thankful for her. But this story is not about her but about another friend I have (let's call her Daisy). 

I have experienced that a long time friendship can end at any time without you being aware of it. Daisy and I also know each other for over 10 years and we are still friends but grew apart really quickly. I won't go into details, my point was just to say that I have learn a lot thanks to my friends. Growing up, I had this idea that a friendship over at least 5 years is here to stay. Well, I was wrong. Now, I believe that everything is possible. It is possible to have a friendship that lasts forever, it is possible that your long lasting friendship ends, it is possible you become friends with the person you once hated. Anything can happen, for the good or for the bad but keep your hopes high and don't build a wall around your heart. Learn from your experiences and move on! 

Now, let's think about people in general. Have you ever had someone who you tried to avoid in your life? It could be a friend or a co-worker. I am pretty much sure we all got them stories, I have one too. For the very first time, I had to get rid of a friend/co-worker. However, did it work? Was I able to get rid of that person? Read more to find out!



Needy People

I have never met any needy people until I met this one person. To avoid saying any real name, let's call this person Regina Phalange (Friends). At first, we had a good friendship and I loved hanging out with Regina but I only realized later that she was very needy and was always seeking compliments. She is nice but needs a lot of attention and is very possessive. She doesn't really like it when you become close with anyone else. I have never tried to purposely get rid of someone but I had to avoid her at all cost. It was hard for me as we worked together and because she's sweet which makes me feel bad but sometimes, it is just too much. I couldn't her manipulate me with her kindness. Now, I still see her at work but we have a quick chat and I go on with my day. Although I wasn't able to 


Backstabbers 

These are the ones that stab you in the back and then ask why you're bleeding. I am pretty sure you all know what I am talking about here, they are everywhere and most of us had to deal with them at some point in life (or literally everyday). AVOID AT ALL COST. 


The Victim

There are people who have real problems and then there's this type of people who create their own problems and then play the victim. How is it possible that you have a problem with every single thing in life? How can you blame someone else for everything? Why would you refuse to help or improve yourself? I'd say, after the backstabbers, this one is the worst type. Also, it is really hard to find who plays the victim because it is easy to relate to someone who shares their stories, their struggles with you. You become their friend and easily feel attached. 


The Bully 

I am more talking more about the indirectly bullying between co-workers. For example, one of your colleague will make you do more work because they have been working for a longer time while you are a newbie. This type of people are actually very hard to avoid. They just think they have an authority over you and sometimes you can't really do anything about it as you don't want to create problems on the first days of your job. 


The One Who's Way too Nice

Okay, I know I am definitely not the only one who's annoyed by these people. This is someone who will say thank you a thousand times if you help them for anything. They will shoot all their compliments towards you like no one every did before (and that every time they see you). Sometimes, it is way too much. Being nice, friendly is different from being overly nice. I feel like there should be a limit. 


The One Who's Too Comfy

Sometimes, we can get comfortable with people but not enough to share everything. When we begin to be comfortable, some people think that we are at that stage where they can simply be all "touchy". Some people just love to put their hands on your shoulder as they talk and that might be a good thing as they like you. But, if you are someone who likes to stay in your bubble, you might not be a fan of those touchy people. 


Gossipers

How bad do you hate your life that you have to gossip about other people? It is very important to stay away from people who gossip. It is okay to talk to someone about someone else but only in a good way. "Hey, did you see Ken Adams (Friends)? He seems like he's happy now" Now that's good talk. But, in my opinion, if you are having a conversation with someone else, it is better to talk about each other, about your own lives. It avoids gossiping and you get to learn more about your friend. 


Self-Centered

I guess sometimes it is okay to be self-centered. Actually, this type of people focuses on themselves and chances are they will keep their nose out of other people's business. So, if you think about it, these aren't the worst people to become friends with. Also, they are usually confident and goal oriented. We can learn from them sometimes. But, I don't think you want to become good friends if they are too self-centered because that could be bad as they won't care as much for you. 


Temperamental

I have a few coworkers that are temperamental and it is one of the worst things ever. You come to work not knowing how they're feeling and what mood to expect from them. Sometimes they are happy and sometimes they look at you like they are going to kill you. It is very hard to work with them especially if you are someone who is generally in a good mood. 


Disrespectful 

Honestly, I don't even know what to say here. Just stay away from them. You don't need anyone to disrespect you (that includes friends, family, coworkers). DO NOT LET ANYONE DISRESPECT YOU. 


It is actually very hard to avoid some people, mostly co-workers or people who you have been friends for over 10 years or more. You expect to be friends forever, but it doesn't always happen. It is possible that you are best friends now, and later fall apart. On the other hand, you can become good friends with someone you hated at first and that could turn to be a real friendship. Life has its challenges, you simply need the force to face them. 


Do you have any experiences about a certain type of people that you had to avoid? How do you feel about this? Let me know in the comments! 


~Thank you for reading & happy blogging ~

12 comments:

  1. Great read & such great reminders. life's too short to surround yourself with people who bring you down. :)

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  2. You covered every type of person that you must avoid. I agree that life is too short to surround yourself with people who generate negative energy.

    xo Erica

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    1. Yeep, say no to people who bring negative energy! Thank you for reading :)

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  3. 100% agree with all of these (although some people say I'm too nice... ahha!). Surround yourself with people who support you and make you feel good!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

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    1. Yes, you are right! Hahaa being kind is great but I feel like there is a limit to it. I am talking exaggeration here. Yeah, avoiding toxic people is the goal. :)

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  4. this is such a relatable post. Friendship is a two way street for sure, and needs a balance of give and take. Thanks for this!

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    1. Exactly! You said it so nicely :D Thank you for reading!

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  5. I've met all of the above and I'm only 17! Some of them are family, it's really hard for me to avoid them too.

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    1. Oh, that is not so good! You need to surrounded yourself with your support system and stay put there. I can understand, it is indeed very hard. I hope you meet more amazing people that supports you.

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  6. I think, as long as I remember, I have tolerated so many of such people in my life for so long. I let that disturb my mental space. Being an introvert, I'd avoid confronting people even to say that I wanted to be away from them. It could have gone only for so long, so what some people fall off of your messages and had to drop those people ASAP(I am not gonna say like hot potatoes).

    I think, I had to come back twice to read this one because it's just so relatable and so many of us struggle with...
    Some people might see it as being selfish, but I think they fail to see the reason. Hmmm...we should avoid them too...lol.

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    1. Hot potatoes x) Ahh, I know what you mean, it not as easy to avoid people who stands in the way of our peace. I feel you, boy!

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